The Fascinating World of Muslim Personals On Non-Muslim Sites
If you haven’t already guessed, I find American Muslims fascinating, particularly in the way men and women find partners.
At the age of sixteen or so, I came across my first Muslim matrimonial site. As many women will tell you, these sites are full of intelligent beautiful women and not-so-appealing men.
During that time, sitting at home in the suburbs without any Muslim friends and waiting for college to begin, I spent some time on sites like shaadi.com, islamicmatches.com and muslimwedding.org. I tried them all despite being sixteen and not looking for someone to marry, obviously. (Is that laughter, I hear?).
In fact, I made lots of friends through these sites, though we’ve all lost touch. I remember right after 9/11, I met a flight attendant who had just converted to Islam. We threw a few e-mails back and forth and told our stories.
At some point, curiosity got the best of me, and I wondered what it would be like to search for Muslims on non-Muslim dating sites, like Yahoo! Personals. I found that most of the Muslim-specific matrimonial sites were heavily populated by South Asians. Arablounge.com seemed to be standard for Arab Muslims.
A quick search on Yahoo! and you find Caucasians, African Americans, and Muslims of Southeast Asian descent.
So that’s where they were hiding!
Now, years later, while trying to hook up some of my female friends, I thought I’d give CraigsList a whirl. Verdict? CraigsList is where all of the non-mainstream Muslims go. All of the people who may be outcasts in their local community are present, including the silent, average-joe Muslims. Many are not particularly religious but still identify as Muslim. You’ll also find divorced men & women, LGBT folks, and the folks who just want to have “fun.”
A few months ago, a couple of my friends came over and I introduced them to this wild Muslim underworld. The first ad we came across? A “hot Muslim girl” looking for… another girl.
That night we also found a “divorced Egyptian man whose ‘only sin is smoking.’ Today, if you look at Muslim personals on Craig’s List, here is a sampling of what you’ll find:
A 37 year old woman in DC who just wants to meet a guy who won’t jump on her on their first meeting. And I quote, “If you are Muslim and a kind person who won’t jump on me and try to kiss me the first time we meet, then maybe you’re the one.”
An Egyptian Prince looking for a second wife.
A Black Muslim in London with one child who works as a teacher. He likes motorcycles and ancient civilizations.
This 29 year old Virginian has given up, stating simply, “I can’t find any well-educated Muslim girls.” I think he may also be live under a rock.
Sorry, I couldn’t resist. :)
Here is a sweet-sounding mother of two, just looking for a good guy.
A 22 year old graduate of Virginia Tech who isn’t very religious. Her parents are Iranian, and she wants a guy who gives good massages.
Perverts need not apply to this woman in Orange County who works in Biotech and grew up in Europe
Honorable mention goes to this single father who votes independent, and my boys in Toronto, May God bless them with someone who will knock some sense into them
While not all of the ads on CraigsList and Yahoo! Personals are related to marriage, I think it is very clear that Muslims in the West are using any means necessary to look for spouses. This includes but is not limited to on-line classifieds.
It’s just that a lot of the more ‘interesting’ ones are on CraigsList!